Some of what you like I think you can do; I've often gone to the barber shop for a haircut :-) and I wear pants and, when I was dating a certain man 25-30 years ago, I loved his cologne so now wear it as my own sometimes (my husband's clueless, but I dare say likes the scent since it's one a man would choose for himself :-)

Other than that, I would probably go see a counselor and talk to them for awhile and explore your past, present, and who you are in yourself and what you like and how to make the two work for you.