No, bottom line his basic nature is one of kindness, his talk of graphic sex is a learned bahavior from growing up (that doesn't make it okay in my book). I am seeing so much that is so wrong. He is definately not grounded in reality. Guy's nuts! Move is set for the beginning of March.

His freudian slips lead me to believe that he can have her and me at the same time. Every commitment to me so far has been broken...even the little things like cleaning the closet, working on our relationship with me and talking to her for hours and going to visit her. His spending is out of control. I have no control over none of these things. He doesn't want to give up their friendship and says he cannot stop caring about her. Those are works I just typed as he said them to her while she is on the phone with him.

I am so glad I pulled back emotionally. I'm seeing the psychosis that I never looked for before. There are three people in this relationship and it seems he can't hear that.

But bottom line, I'm really glad I'm moving to Vegas to be near family. No more crazy neighbors, no more crazy significant others.