Yeah, I wonder that sometimes, though your title made me laugh! In my case, am I just paying for a friend? I don't know. I think therapy is wonderful because there is no one who can replace my T, and that's the way it is! So I don't care if it's "a piece of crock"! My T is trying to help me with these attachment issues, so I don't believe for the most part that it isn't worth it and is more than just me wanting the connection.

I think it makes sense that you want to know "what makes your T tick." Some Ts will answer personal questions; some won't. I asked my T about her religious beliefs, and that was okay with her. I think she would answer questions like "what makes you happy" or "what makes you sad". Those are good questions. Has anyone asked their T questions like that?

Many of us want to see our Ts as people. After all, they are. At least I think so. My current T lets me see a lot of herself, but she does it subtly. She doesn't talk a lot about herself, but I see it in her office. I hope it works for you if this is what you need to go forward in your therapy.