Thread: Do you ever wonder if therapy is a bunch of crock?
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Old Jan 19, 2011, 04:24 AM
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It is usually when I'm frustrated about something, or I am wanting something I can't have, or wishing for something that can't be... frustrated, disappointed or something along those lines... that I might wonder. But I suspect for me it is a way of devaluing (in place of allowing the anger, disappointment, etc) or a way of pushing away what feels frightening (intimacy, vulnerability, etc.)
Thanks so much for this echoes. I really needed this reminder right at this very moment. You expressed this so clearly. Especially the comment about devaluing in place of allowing the feelings. I think that makes a covert issue overt for me. Thank you.
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He said that we can email as MUCH as we want (100 times per day). Believe in this - it is challenging fears about being punished. It is okay to be seen. You are not a nuisance. "Too much" simply means exploration, not punishment/withdrawal. Trust in him.

Not looking at him is about keeping aspects of self hidden/secret. We know that is not the healthy choice. Keep working on this - you will get there.

Accept there are parts. Be kind and gentle with them. Working with parts and feelings is the key to happiness. We have been happy before when listened to them and accepted them and were open to feelings. Write in your journal - it is safe to do so.
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Thanks for this!
ECHOES, Sannah