Hi peaches, sorry you are going through this. I would have been hurt by the dbt comment too.

It sounds like your therapist is a bit confused right now. It sounds like she is still reeling to be quite honest. I am confused why she would be talking about retirement right NOW. Retirement can be an extremely stressful and it has only been 6 weeks since her losing a parent. Maybe that is putting her off her game? It sounds like she does not want to leave you.

I too hate getting brusque and/or pushy advice. I try hard to remember that the other person thinks they are "helping." But it still drives me crazy!!!!!