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Old Jan 19, 2011, 12:42 PM
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So then I just wrote back to him the next morning saying that my goals are more important and i'd like to have membership fees back but you may keep your monthly rent if possible.. and i didn't receive a response. frankly i dont care if i do get a response or not.
But what I don't understand is WHY AM I FEELING anxious and sad??
I do miss some of the people there.. but then I'm not getting what i came for...
What am i feeling? i'm getting this confused guilty/anxious feelings and many others.. having trouble figuring it out???
lots of times i feel misunderstood or others don't respect me appropriately. what i've learned is to objectively assess if my behavior or communication was appropriate. if i conclude it was then i just let go..sometimes difficult to do. the guilty/anxious feeling creates the anxious and sad feeling u have because you've internalized what isn't "yours". it's the other guy who's inappropriate, etc. those feelings u have that u've internalized as yours creates depression. anger turned inward=depression.
hope this helps, distressed. idk. imho, you handled the situation well and were honest about why you stopped being involved with them.
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Thanks for this!
Distressed2010