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Originally Posted by poetgirl76
I wanted to talk about the thing that stirred up all this SI stuff right now, all this hurt....I felt like I left with the wound still open.....
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Did you tell her this ^ in session?
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Originally Posted by poetgirl76
I think there has been both the environment and the genetics in my case...... I think it's pretty clear to me I have the tendency anyway......I see much more clearly how deeply patterns learned from childhood are etched into my mind/heart. It's daunting to see how much healing is needed......
and daunting to think how much might just remain, as an intrinsic part of me/my mind, even when I have dealt with childhood, and other, wounds.
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I think that once you have dealt with all of your issues that you are pretty much functional. The genetic part IMO is just which direction that your dysfunctional unbringing is going to take you in.
In my dysfunctional family, my dad, sister and I developed anxiety. None of us could be depressed ever. My other sister is depressed. I have never seen her anxious once. My mother is narcissistic. I never saw her anxious or depressed. I know some people can have all of the above.
I have been working on myself for 20 years (the intense work was the first 10). I have beat back that anxiety pretty well. Rarely am I anxious and when I am it is a situation where anyone would be anxious.