I went to see my daughter at the ocd place this weekend. It was good to see her and hold her and joke with her. She likes the Dr.s but there is this LICSW who is such a !!!!! She is really off and inappropriate and told my daughter who is not even 18 yet that her physical relatioships with her family and friends is dysfuntional. This because she clung to us like a monkey when we went to admit her.

I am very angry at this woman for adding more to the child's load! It is very much a cultural thing. In our family, in our community and with our friends we hug and kiss and snuggle. And what is wrong with this? For crying out loud today I met my friend's MIL for the second time ever and she is not of the mainstream white culture here. She simply stated they were a kissing family and kissed me. It was fine, she is the grandmother to my friends kids, she is family. I felt like this S.W. added more to the burden for a kid who believes that anything of a sexual nature is bad and has panic if someone accidentally touches a private place. She has OCD! The fact that she can love openly and fully is a gift. This woman actually had the nerve to ask my daughter if she slept with us!!!!! My kid is quick and smart and stated no, of course but that she did as a nursing child and that in most other cultures co-sleeping is accepted. Gotta love her! Of course she is also very well-read. Good girl!

So I have decided that should this woman call me and state anything of the above I will be polite and then very firm that it is her issue, not ours. My friend Jane who died last year was the one to teach me of hugs and snuggles and till the day she died she snuggled with her adult children as they drank eachother up.

It still makes me sad though. My baby has to question if having stuffed toys is dysfunctional or if liking to color is. I told her she was multi functional and I was proud of her. Advised her to take what she could use and throw the rest out. Someone please keep remionding me why I am not fond of most S.W.ers.

The program is a good one. some people are just hung up on their own issues and trying to put their crap on others.

This woman child of mine is someone I admire and aspire to be like.