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Originally Posted by rainbow8
In my email to my T, I told her how it's such a big deal to me that she does these nice things for me, like says she likes me, will take a walk with me, will email me, holds my hand, etc. They are such a big deal when they really aren't if someone else does them! Yet I get all happy and excited and satisfied when my T, who is just another person like me, says she will do these things! I even told her I was going to start this thread!!
So, why is what our T gives us so special?
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well, the big deal to me anyway, is that this is a person to whom I've given a deep trust, with whom I share my ugliest, darkest parts, my fears, my hurts.....these are special things that
I am giving. So in turn, considering that I have shown so much of my deepest self and really am afraid of being rejected, and that one of my deepest fears has always been of someone seeing the depth of pain within and recoiling from it, it means so much more, feels so much more validating, when my T does do special things for me or says that I am special....