Hello. I am sorry for what you are going through. I am going to be a little harsh and have a stab in the dark here. Tell me if I am right.

This guy has some very nice things about him, which you clearly like. But with it he is also emotionally abusive to you.

You sound in your posts terrified, scared and in panic. Trust yourself honey. There is a reason for that.

The guy shares intimacy with you and then tells you that another woman he is with wants you dead. God! That would really scare me.

I am not writing this to scare you further. I am writing this to encourage you to trust yourself. You need to get out of there.

You have your cats and your loving family. You have your own flat - just take your cats and your stuff and go to your flat. After few days of no contact with him you can re-assess. And keep writing here.

Tell me how you are. I am sending you big hugs xxx