He knows me so well, but yet he's still nice to me. Therefore, I must be OK! There is just something so wonderful about sharing deeply with someone and having them like you for who you are, not betraying you, using the information you've shared against you, etc.

For me, this is not it, but I can see how it could be important for some. I treasure what elements of reciprocity there are about the relationship. T seems to be really good about making me feel the relationship is reciprocal. Maybe it's a somewhat false construct, but he has participated in its building. It works for me!