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Jan 19, 2011, 10:24 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi Dennis ~ All of this seems to have started with your father, right? You're going to need to decide for yourself that you are no longer your Dad's whipping boy. We can't live up to OTHERS expectations!!! You have to live up to your OWN. You may need to talk to a therapist for this Dennis. But you are your own person. You don't belong to anyone else - therefore, you don't have to ANSWER to anyone else. Stop letting the past dictate your present. What your Dad used to do has NO BEARING on today. You can decide to forgive and forget that -- if you carry around that resentment toward your father, it's going to eat you up like a cancer. "Resentment is the poison I take to kill you." Makes sense, doesn't it? The people we resent don't even KNOW we resent them -- so all we're doing is hurting ourselves! LOL We may as well just stop resenting them, and get on with life. What happened yesterday, or years ago is gone. It's over. It's up to us to let it go or dwell on it. I choose not to dwell on my past because it makes me sick.
Maybe talking to a therapist would help Dennis -- I've been in and out of therapy for years ~ finally I'm done.  It might help you in dealing with this. Best of luck and God bless. Hugs, Lee
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