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Surviving the breakup of a marriage or, for that matter, surviving the loss of any cherished individual, can leave us a little wiser about love. By getting a little distance from the pain, we come to know that:
1. relationships can and do end;
2. love has many unforeseen, but inevitable, twists and turns;
3. love is based as much on a decision to remain steadfast, in spite of the inevitable twists and turns, as it is on the fulfillment of fantasy or gratification of unmet needs; and
4. we can survive loss.
Finally, and perhaps most importantly, by distancing ourselves from the intensity of extreme pain experienced during a breakup, we are able more fully to appreciate the gift of a meaningful, satisfying relationship and, with time, take steps to build such a relationship in the future.
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Hello, Amy. The feelings you are dealing with are harsh. Your mind is working overtime to make sense of what you may never fully understand. Grieving is not forever. You were good person before. The decision to divorce does not make you a bad one. Remind yourself of that each day.
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/grief_loss.htm
http://www.buzzle.com/articles/movin...r-divorce.html