thanks. it takes time. we didn't learn catastropic thinking overnight so we shouldn't expect to stop it in a week. it really is suffering, isn't it. doesn't change anything. it is almost as if we want to punish ourselves for some unfathomable reason.
of course there are times when running through scenarios is good as long as it is controlled. practicing answering possible questions for an interview is positive. seeing your whole life unravel if you don't get that job is extreme.
each day i get a little better at staying calm. ihave scrrewed up model paint jobs, broken parts and lost parts on the floor and 32 years ago i woulf have gone into a rage. now it's just a "how can i fix this?"