Any advice or just similar situation information would be great...thanks in advance everyone.

I have been married for about 2 1/2 years. My husband and I have been together for a little over 4 years. We have never been a wildly passionate couple but there has never been a doubt that we love each other. We are currently seeing a therapist together and each of us seperately. I know we are both depressed and there are times that I just think I am going to completely lose my mind.

We have been through a ton as a couple. A lot of family deaths, job loss and unemployment, forclosure on the house, moving and so much more. We always seem to deal with the issues. We do not have a sex life to speak of. I was really putting forth a lot of effort for awhile to make that part of our marriage better but got tired of always being the one trying to get things going (or just being rejected). Over all I just feel unattractive and undesired. There is also the housework issue. He has always done the laundry and that is great because that is what I hate the most. He doesn't ever seem to contribute to anything else though. I shovel the snow, do the dishes, mow the yard, take out the trash....the list goes on and on. I also work a lot more than he does. I am in retail management and am trying to move up the laddar so I put in 50 hours or more a week. He knew about this before we got married and never said a word about it being a problem. Actully he never really says anything anymore. He is just irritable all the time and sleeps. We don't discuss these issues they just kind of sit there. I am just getting tired of 1. working to support us all the time 2. doing nearly all the housework and 3. feeling like I am alone in the whole situation.

I married saying I would never get divorced. I have never really seen what a "healthy" realationship can be. Not only do I feel that I made this commitment and should stay with it but we also attend a church that divorce is really something that is not done. I would never stay just because my chuch looks down on it but I also just don't want to leave him. Lord knows I love the man and I don't see that ever changing. I do find myself wishing that he would do something really stupid (like cheat on me) so that I had a really good reason to leave him. Sorry this got a bit long. I am just frustrated.