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Originally Posted by Ryask
... But you know what i did instead.....i thought to myself...now why would anyone say that to anyone else....i mean how could you say things like that to people and not expect them to feel hurt? I came to the conclusion...that my mom is a witch with a capitol B. Instead of turning inwards and blaming myself...i really just thought there is something wrong with that woman. this is the FIRST time in my whole life that i have done this. I am so proud of myself
...I got mad...and i am pretty sure i have every right to be mad....and if being angry stops me from beating myself up...i think this is really good step in the right direction. However i am willing to take some feedback here....is "not being hurt" worth essentially "losing a relationship with my mother the miserable harpy"? I certainly think it's worth it.... 
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Hehe, I'd think we had the same mother, if I didn't know my sister doesn't have BP!

I don't know how old you are, but can tell you that it really took me
quite awhile to
really grasp the enlightment you have. I know others may feel differently, but.... to me, mother or no, if a relationship makes you feel crappy about yourself, what is the point?
Granted, nothing is perfect, but if there is a big negative pattern? Yeah.
(I am proud of you too, Ryask!!!

I
really struggle with not turning hurtful things inward and blaming myself, so know that your revelation is a very big deal!

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