Annie,

Marriage is hard. It's hard to choose a partner and it's hard to decide if you should stay. My situation is different but the outcome is the same. My husband is a good man. Works hard and tries his best to make me happy. But the passion isn't there it never was:not on the first day, not on our honeymoon and certainly not in the bedroom.

My heart yearns for someone else, this man I'm passionate about but that relationship cannot be (and that is another issue.)

I know I need to deal with my marriage first before I can move on to a healthy, new relationship. I'm not sure if I should stay in this marriage but I'm terrified to be alone.