My personal life is a mess right now. I'm dealing with two very painful issues and I just don't know what to do. I've spoke to my mom and my friend and they have helped but I'm still in so much pain.

My marriage is about to fall apart due to too many years of no pleasure. My husband spends so much of his time off napping and watching silly movies instead of being intimate with me. We have discussed this but passion needs to come naturally - and it doesn't with us. It never has. Not sure if this is a good enough reason to leave a marriage that is decent in so many other ways.

The other issue is getting over a man I'm very passionate about. He pretty much asked me to break up with him (told me to grow a pair and leave him) so I did. I miss him so much but I wasn't fulfilling his needs. How could I? I'm married. I thought he was my one true love my true soul mate. But if he was I don't think he would have been so disappointed in me all the time. This is the one man I really thought I could make happy. I connected with him on a level I've never felt before. But I'm not ready to leave my husband so I couldn't be there for him as he would have liked me to be. So I walk around in pain missing him terribly.

My life's a mess.