Good morning everyone. I'm new here and looking for a little advice.

Boyfriend and I have known each other for 33 years. Dated once 20 years ago and recently started dating again. Now living together. Here's my issue. I have noticed recently that bf, when on the internet, will close out his webpages when I come in or near the computer room. I've noticed this about 4 or 5 times over the past month or so. Well, my curiosity got the better of me and I decided to check where he'd been online. He had cleared his history but not his temporary internet files. Low and behold I found that he has been looking at webpages for Russian "escorts" and dating services. He has had a thing for Russian girls and his ex-wife is Russian. Unfortunately she used him to get into this country, got knocked up by someone else and eventually left him. His fascination with Russian girls, especially in light of his past experience, has always bothered me a bit.

Last night I decided to mention to him that I knew what he'd been looking at...naked pictures of these Russian models, etc. He went ballistic. Was mad at me for checking up on him. I told him that it made me feel horrible and that it was like a slap in the face. He seemed totally unconcerned about my feelings. He tried to keep pushing it back on me as if it was my fault. He said I could have just come to him and asked him why he was closing out the pages every time I got near. Okay, so the fact that he deleted his history, as it pertained to those pages, am I supposed to believe I would get an honest answer? He said that he always clears his history but, in fact, it's only those pages that he clears daily. It irritates me that he would be looking at these in the first place but makes me even more mad that he would do this when I was in the house. I realize that I was being sneaky in a way but then again so is he.

He has always been my closest friend and I would always go to him with anything that was happening in my life. My life has always been an open book for him. I feel that his doing this and intentionally hiding it, or trying to hide it, is unacceptable.

My last marriage ended when I finally couldn't put up with the fact that my husband of 12 years had cheated on me for a third time. I guess that relationship has caused me to be a little more suspicious of people. That is something that I am working on and was doing well with until this little situation presented itself. I just thought that with my bf knowing my past and what it did to me might make him a little more cautious with my feelings. I understand that he is angry that I "checked up" on him but what about my feelings about what he has done. Do they not count?

Please let me know your thoughts.