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Originally Posted by Elana05
(((Amy)))
I'm so sorry to hear things are so hard right now.
Has your husband ever been open to seeing a couples therapist, even just a few times at least? Relationships can be SO difficult... I have found this to be so helpful, especially to be able to say things to my partner I couldn't say if we were on our own. It is a safe place to talk when you have a good moderator who understands...
From your post, it seems this other guy was putting a lot of pressure on you. IMO, better to try to work things out with your husband and let them evolve or resolve naturally first before tackling another relationship - which can lead to so much more stress and won't usually end well (again, this is just my opinion).
If he is not open to it, you might consider going to see a therapist on your own. (I actually see 2 right now, one with my partner and one by myself  ). I think the internal aches in life will keep popping up if you don't address them, as they often come from way down deep or from a long time ago.
Sending many supportive thoughts your way.
 Elana
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Thank you so much for your support. It really means a lot to me. I'm in serious crisis right now.
I've been married nine years and for the most part, the marriage is good. Couple therapy could help; I know my husband would be open to the idea. I need to look at my insurance.
Individual therapy is something I did before and need to do again. I need to stop procrastinating and look for a therapist.
My whole life I've been so broken emotionally and have been reacting to issues without thinking. I want to start acting like someone I can respect. Someone who is healthy and can take care of herself and can be a good person to others. By doing that I believe I can find happiness.
Hugs