I had a similar experience, I went out but came home early (unexpected) and couldn't get an answer at the front door so went around the back to let myself in. Hubby was looking at porn on the internet and froze when he saw me ! I couldn't help myself I burst out into laughter.

His face was a picture. We had a talk and I pointed out to him I didnt so much mind him looking it was the fact it was a secret that really bugged me.

So we came to a deal....

He can look as often as he likes however if I ask if he has been on one of the sites he is to tell me the truth. (so far he has I can check even if he deletes lol)

I think its each to his/her own regarding how it affects them. To me its not such a big deal as the chances of him running off with one of them 'babes' is slim to none lol.

Looking to me is not the same as touching.

Since we have had our deal I must admit its gone from often to rarely that he looks at the sites.