((((Catlovers))))

Thank you for asking and I do hear you. I also validate how you are feeling. It is so hard when those parts of us feel like they are not heard or do not matter. Truth is they matter very much.

Those parts did something for us and they have feelings and many times react as they had to. They do not know many times that they are even in the present. They are important and have something to say.

I know for myself those within are very hard to listen to at times and I find myself pulled away and afraid. But I know that they hold those things I could not face myself.

As possum said it, "That part........ is you." As hard as that is sometimes, it is true. So many of those within myself are so separate and for a long time and even now I sometimes have trouble remembering that. They are not trying to fight against you but trying to be heard.

Trying to communicate with them is important and also it lets them know that you know that they are there and that they are important. Learning to trust your insides is important.

Allowing those parts to be heard allows you to move forward and heal. As sabby said, maybe allowing that part to write out what they feel as they can and then when they are ready then showing it to t. Mine write many times without me knowing and it helps them get things out and feel that they are being validated.

Sometimes I have found that, that is all they need to be validated and heard. It is hard sometimes but important both for you and them. I find that at times when a part is really pushing to be heard and feeling that they are more important it is because it is time, or at least seems it is beginning to be.

It seems the harder I fight them the more they push to be heard. It is hard and many times scary, but the unknown is always scarier than the known. For me there is one that is so sad and hurt and it is hard to allow her to write.

Even when she writes the hard stuff and the feelings of needing to end or hurt, somewhere in all that she is telling what she knows and getting it out allows it to come to the surface and out of the secrets.

Being able to say something many times is all that is needed. Just as when I need to say something it many times just is important to get it out. It comes to the light and out of the darkness. I do not feel so alone.

But many times allowing her to write it out relieves the pressure. She has something to say and it is important however hard it is to hear. Even saying that is hard but I have learned that pushing them back down causes more confusion and chaos.

Having co-consciousness takes time but it is important. As scary as it is it allows us to find safety and not be so dissociated and not know what is going on. For myself, it was important back when I needed it but it causes more confusion now and it puts safety at risk. But take it one step at a time, and know that it is okay.

I am sorry you felt not important and that that part of you felt not important. Talk to t and ask her to explain to you. Many times we feel something that is not what was intended. For us sometimes the feelings are so strong that we do not always hear what is meant because the emotions and feelings are so strong.

You are important as is every part of you. I know it is hard and it takes time to get through. Know that we are here for you and listening. Please keep reaching out. Sending you gentle hugs and loving thoughts. Always.

dps