Thanks guys. I just wanted to be sure my behavior was justified. To answer your question Soul Quake, my boyfriend is otherwise a wonderful man. He's handsome, accomplished and driven. Although he is one of those types who doesn't like to talk about his feelings and sometimes he can be "all about him". Think that might have to do with his long army career. But there are times when he can do the most thoughtful things like bringing me flowers or a new movie I wanted or even the other day we were at a bar watching football and I complained that my long hair was bothering me so he slipped out and went and bought me a hairclip. I thought that was so thoughtful. This is a relationship that I've wanted for a long time...just had to wait for him to be ready for it. He was friends with my brother first so when we first dated so many years ago he had an issue ultimately with sleeping with his best friend's little sister. I feel like couples need to communicate in a relationship and not be afraid to express their feelings. Guess that's an area we will have to work on.