I specifically did not look at the other replies because I just wanted to tell you my experience. I can easily be swayed that I am "crazy" or whatever, so I just wanted to write without any judgment.

Twenty some years ago when I was pregnant with my oldest son, I found my husband was buying "bondage" magazines (this was before the Internet). I found them stashed in the garage behind a bunch of stuff.

When I asked him about them, he said that they were a "gift" from some friend when he got married and he didn't want them so he put them in the garage. For some reason this sounded like a plausible explanation, although now in retrospect I know it was stupid.

This scenario happened over and over through the next 10 years....hide the porn, lie to me.

I finally quit asking. And somehow my husband decided in his head that my no longer asking as CONSENT to this behavior. It was not.

Now whenever we have an arguement about ANYTHING (not even sexually related), he brings up how all of a sudden I didn't care that he looked at porn....and when I try to explain my side of the situation, he just blows me off.

Porn is porn. People (guys and girls) like it or they don't. But the desire is not something that in my opinion is easily turned off.

I think that is something you should consider.