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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
I am so afraid to tell T about this dream. My own reading of it is that even after 3 yrs I still have huge trust issues about therapy. My fear is that it will come across as a BIG vote of no-confidence in her, which will adversely affect - or even derail - the work. My T is very well adjusted, and very experienced, but she has put 3 yrs of work into my case; everyone is vulnerable to frustration and discouragement, and I'm scared of that.
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I hope you can tell her the dream, SAWE. You can preface the telling with some of the thoughts you have expressed here--that you worry the dream will come across as a vote of no confidence and that she will be hurt or want to terminate therapy (or whatever your fears are). You can also lead with why you are still in therapy with her--there must be a lot of positive to hold you with her so long--so as to give a more balanced picture. I guess what I'm saying is to try to alleviate some of your anxiety about sharing the dream by providing a tempering "frame" around your telling. I learned the "sandwich" technique for giving a person bad news or criticism (good to use with employees in the workplace when trying to improve performance). Say something good about the person, then tell them the criticism, then end with something good. It's easier to take the "bad" if sandwiched between two goods. Good luck.
I didn't interpret your dream to mean that you have failed at therapy.
