Dear one.

Welcome to pc. I m so sorry your son is ill. What an unjust and sad thing. I wish you all good health and strength.

Dealing with rhis is hard as it is. Then on top - dealing with abuse partner at the same time makes it so atressful that i m concerned about u. Can u use therapy? If only to provide some respite...

As for your question - how to approach him - well, try to do sone relaxation techniques before the conversation. Then go sit in front of him and keep noth feet on the ground. Hands gently resting in your lap. Then be aware of youe body. Take deep breathes and speak slowly. I would start by saying that i find the whole situation very overwhelming and i know its hard for you too. I ve been thinking what to do and researched a little and here is what i found......etc.

If at any point he interupts - stay calm. Take deep breathe and say with no eye contact - i would like you to let me finish. If he does not - say it again. If he still doesnt then get up and leave the room. Do something else. Next time u r in a room together open the window, light a candle. Dont talk about this. Then when time passed and u r comfortable try again. Same routine.

I would like to point - if u feel overwhelmed by his remarks its because he is being abusive and your reactions are normal. Font beat yourself for it! Finding a clinical way - such as the above - may help in reducing anxiety and getting the message across. Good luck! Let me know how goes.

Best wishes to you and your son x