(((((((((MUE)))))))))))))) I am so sorry about all of this right now for you.
I do understand the very insane ex-H deal. But I didn't have children to worry about - I miscarried. Ugggg. I don't know what I would have done had the child been born!
My heart fully goes out to you!!!

The only thing that kept me safe after I left my ex-H was that I had pictures of him working on cars and he was up for full disability for insurance. I hate to say it, but I ended up just telling him that if anything happened to me, those pictures would "end up where he didn't want them to end up" :-( I felt guilty for years about that, but my T says it saved my life. Point of that story sharing is that maybe you can get evidence of some sort against him based on what he is doing? IDK. More safe hugs for you!