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All of a sudden, I am feeling sad about the permanent break from my ex. Mostly because I can't monitor his behavior and state of mind for my daughter's well being....but also because I know how humiliated he must feel about what occurred tonight and how sad he might feel or upset or whatever....I was his caretaker for many years....and now he's left to his own devices and making many terrible mistakes.....I feel bad for him.
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Do you think he deserves to feel humiliated for his behavior? If he does feel humiliation, then that's good and it's how he is acknowleding the inappropriateness of the behavior. Making mistakes is how we learn the things we must learn.
A child falls many times as he is learning to walk.
This is something he needs to go through so he can possibly come out the other side of it, and be the person he wants to be, if he wants that.
Supervised visits for him and your daughter sound like a good idea for them both because:
Your precious daughter is safer.
The inappropriateness of his behavior is emphasized, underscored, and shown to have consequences. Another learning opportunity for him.
