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Jan 21, 2011, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Leed

No Amy ~ divorce is not selfish. Sometimes it saves your life. It did mine. Sometimes if you don't get out, you will lose your mind. Sometimes if you don't get out you will lose your LIFE. Divorce isn't ALWAYS selfish.

Yes, you can become lonely afterwards. Sometimes we become too NEEDY after a divorce. We have to be careful that we don't take people as hostages when we're needy. We can't hang on to people ~ we have to consider other peoples' feelings too, not just ours. Sometimes when we're so needy, we forget about others' problems & feelings.

Of course you grieve the end to any relationship. When you've tried your best, that's ALL you can do!! You can't take ALL the blame for a failed relationship. It takes two for a relationship to fail. Once we know that we did everything we could to save it, then we can let it go. Just grieve it, and let it go. Bury it, and start anew. Each day is a new beginning!!! Don't be weighted down by the past ~ it's GONE. It doesn't exist anymore. We have a new day here ~ and a chance to make it whatever we want.

God bless you Amy. Take care of yourself. Hugs, Lee

I am grieving a relationship. I didn't do everything I can to save it because I just didn't have the ability to do so. Actually, what I'm grieving is a cyber affair that I thought would blossom into a real life relationship.

I really thought this man was my soul mate but the time and attention needed to cultivate this relationship wasn't in my abilities. One could say I deserve all the pain I have because I shouldn't have been involved in this relationship to begin with - but I thought he was the man I was meant to be with forever. I really did.