Just today in session we touched on the fact that I need to learn to love myself. Accept myself for who I am.
I have this picture of a perfect human being in my mind, who has it all together, is stable and happy... And that's kind of where I strive to get to. So I am hard on myself. T then pointed out that none of us are robots - we cannot hope to be perfect. And that wouldn't even make us human. Humans have 'flaws' - they are what make us unique and give us character. We need to learn to embrace our uniqueness.
It's not going to be easy to change that mindset.