bluray... I know what you are feeling (sounds like others do as well). I've been at this for 6 months... some talk about it hurting the therapy... some seem to savor in it... what I can say is that this relationship, if you've never done it before, is going to be one of the strangest you will ever have. I've frankly fallen in love with this person, and while I haven't told her this in such strong terms, I have talked with her about it... and we are working on it. I don't know where it will lead with me... and I also worry about the end... but you should talk with yours and let them know...