I often wonder what therapists think when we do bring up this type of conversation. Yes, they are trained to handle this, but I wonder how they really feel. How does it feel to be helping someone, yet hurting them at the same time? Not intentionally hurting them, but let's get real, clients DO get hurt going through this process.

A year into my therapy, I have not changed one bit on this situation. It is a love/hate relationship. Talking it through with my therapist did not change anything. Just made me realize it is normal. So what if it is normal, that doesn't make it any easier.

To be honest, I am not sure if talk therapy is for everyone. I think that knowing the pain of severing the relationship keeps people in therapy longer than they probably should be. I can say that I have worked through some issues that I struggled with, I have benefited from being in therapy, BUT I have added a new issue to my life. The therapist/client relationship! Yes, it is the strangest relationship I have ever been in.

Like I said, I am not sure that this is for everyone. My husand explains it like this: If you are in some type of trauma/accident/illness you go to an MD or specialist to help you heal. It may takes months or even years of treatment. You develop a bond with your doctor. He/she is trying to save your life! Of course you feel a closeness to them.

But in the end, when you have healed and no longer need your doctor to treat you, that relationship more than likely ends. You move on and your doctor moves on to treating other patients who, like you, come to him/her needing their professional services to put them back together.

When you look at it like this, it makes sense. Unfortunately, it does not make it any easier.