Dear ((((((((lavie)))))))) What you say above is SO true. Yes, YOU DO deserve love! And yes, in an ideal world, it would be desirable for us to love ourselves before we enter into a love relationship with someone else. But this isn't an ideal world and, as you say here, many, many people with psychological problems, self esteem problems, and a whole host of other problems, can and do find love.

I didn't get married until relatively late in life (I was 37). And I was single for a long time before I met my now husband. I had a ton of insecurity and self-esteem issues, and I still do. I remember thinking that marriage would change all that. For a long time I LONGED to be married. And it was quite a let down when I realized a year or so into the marriage that my husband couldn't "make me whole". Nobody can. Except perhaps me.

I still have a lot of unresolved emotional/mood issues and it has effected my marriage in some ways. But it hasn't prevented the marriage from being possible. My husband means the world to me, and yet, he can't "fix" me. (Not that I'm suggesting you are expecting anyone to "fix" you!! Just, on some level, I think I was expecting that. Or at least, I was expecting that marriage would be the "missing link" in my life).

Anyhow, I guess I'm just trying to make the point that people with all kinds of issues do get married. And a lot of people marry later in life. I think your plan of trying to get out and about and in situations where you might meet someone is a really good one. YOU SO DESERVE LOVE!!!! (((((((((lavie))))))))))