I think its certainly made me think, as much as I felt I couldnt, no more, dont push, its created this push and pull feeling inside and kept me from sinking back into something, even though part of me still feels like stamping her feet and pouting lol! I think one has to be sure at the same time that the person does have ones wellbeing foremost or else it could cause a collapse, but I think by now T has my wellbeing at heart, unfortunately the timing was a bit out as I am on vacation of my own next week and T said perhaps it wasnt' such a good idea with the break coming up or else we could have done so much more work around it, but I'll survive ...cant' believe I'm actually the one taking a vacation break and not T, theres progress lol