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Jan 22, 2011, 05:57 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi dear Clouds ~ I can understand your pain. My parents are both dead now. But all during my growing up years and in adulthood, never do I remember my parents telling me they loved me, they never hugged me, I never got a pat on the back for a job well done, i.e. good grades in school, or for a performance in a school play, nothing. Us kids were just "there." We were like a piece of furniture. Tell us to move every now and then, and that was it. Naturally, all of us are pretty screwed up ~ all of us have depression at LEAST.
I've worked hard to forgive my parents. It finally dawned on me one day. My parents gave ME what THEY were given. How could they give me something they didn't HAVE?? Their parents didn't give them the love that i wanted ~ so they couldn't give ME any. They didn't know HOW.
Perhaps it's the same with yours. Perhaps they have certain quirks that they can't help. Perhaps they've just not been given the parenting skills that they needed to care for you. That doesn't make them evil people ~ they're just 'ignorant' of what parenting is all about. 
I wish you the very best. I wish I could help you more. Prayers are being sent your way ~ God bless you. Hugs, Lee
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