hi all, thank you, thank you for your replies to my distress.   i have decided to let this go. she has family, hubby to make the decision re children and my friend. i am sad to have to detach from all of them but my mental health and well being needs to come first. i can't change the situation. i'll certainly keep them all in my prayers but "how do u stay healthy in an unhealthy relationship?" my T said to me once. i said i dunno.  he replied, "distance". wise man he is.
i already feel better now that i've decided what to do. your replies were so appreciated by me.
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Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish, in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle.
The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours..~Ayn Rand
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