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Old Jan 22, 2011, 05:49 PM
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Originally Posted by lavieenrose View Post
I don't understand the secondary gain of being miserable.
I can really relate to this ((((((lavie))))) All I've come up with so far with regard to my own tendency to stay stuck in a bad place is that it's familiar. And even though I'm sick of feeling miserable, I am just so used to feeling like this.

It's not that I don't want to get better. It's that I'm afraid to do different things. If that makes sense. I am very attached to certain daily routines. They give me a sense of security I guess. And yet, in order to get better, I need to change some of these routines. And that's where the resistance comes in. I'm scared to change. Even though I know I need to make changes in order to get better.

Thanks for the food for thought!
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Thanks for this!
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