Hi,

I've been married twice, both times to men who were damaging to me and made my insecurities 10 times worse. Now I've been single for several years and am just starting to think, yeah, maybe I would like to be in a relationship again. The difference is knowing much more clearly what's good for me and what isn't. For a while all I knew was that I was "no good" at choosing men. I was going for the pizazz with #1 and the familiar with #2 (not realizing that in my case familiar was totally dysfunctional). Now... maybe there's a guy out there who is secure enough in himself to actually love me. Here's hoping we all find what we need... and as for what any of us brings to the table, what about love, intelligence, humor...? I am definitely not bringing money or housekeeping skills, so my man, if he's out there, is just going to have to love me for myself. And wouldn't that be nice for a change!