there is such a thing as seperation. time out from the sittuation to help you see what you need to see. no it is not easy but have to say if I did not do that don't know if I'd still be alive let alone married for 33 yrs today. my hubby would not go to counseling so I was left to own. our marriage went through much turmoil. Is it perfect today? no But I've learned that just because he wants something done in certain way I am not responsible for that
if he wants it done in his way and his time that is on him not me. yes because I love him I will do to the best of my ability at any given moment but I am not failure if it is not to his standard at any given moment and visa versa.