((( JMo )))

I think that you are the only one who knows whether your daughters are old enough. 13 and 14 year olds could either be ready or not ... I think it depends on the individual kid, not the age. Adolescents are pretty savvy these days.

And I think it's great that you're recognizing what your son is probably going through. That's the only way you can change things. Ok, so you made a mistake -- FORGIVE YOURSELF and be steadfast in making some changes to how you deal with anger and frustration. A one-time incident is going to pale in comparison to the love and support you give him from this point onward.

Hang in there,
LMo