Okay this might be a long one. Sorry in advance.

First off I am new to the bipolar side of this form. I was diagnosed with bipolar when I was 13 (among many other things I was originally diagnosed with). I am 26 now.

I attend therapy but am no longer on meds. I have always hated the way meds would make me feel physically and mentally. I finally was able to get off of everything about 2 years ago.

The main reason I came here for support is because my bipolar almost killed my relationship.

Me and my fiancee were getting into fights a lot. Some were pretty severe yelling matches. We decided that we needed to see a couples therapist to help work out some of our issues before getting married.

We had done one individual session with this therapist and two couples. Which were pretty much "lets get your story" blah blah blah. The strange thing about this therapist was she said in the beginning "I don't believe in Medications or diagnosis" I WTFed at this and it rubbed me the wrong way and in my individual session I kept trying to tell her what I was diagnosed with and how it linked to my problems I was personally having and she didn't want to talk about that :/.

But anyways fast forward to our second individual sessions. I went first and tried to give her some more background and still felt like I was being completely ignored and degraded by comments that she made.

Then my fiance goes in for his and then when they come out the therapist says "I am canceling your couples sessions from now on you will just come for individual" (our couples was the next day and I was kind of excited for it). This confused me and I knew something wasn't right.

I eventually found out that it was because the therapist told him that he was in an emotionally abusive relationship and that "he knew what he had to do". He then decided to go around asking people what he should do about it because it all confused him. That is how I found out unfortunately :/.

We of corse got into a big fight about that because I called him while he was at school and told him he needed to come home and we needed to have a talk. I was ready to leave him because I thought "If I am this horrible person I need to leave." I was emotionally and physically abused by an ex boyfriend and the thought of me doing it to someone I loved so much made me feel sick. I knew that I wasn't but just hearing it come from a "therapist" made me sick and doubt myself.

during the fight he sent me links to sites that talked about emotional abuse and I just looked at him like he was crazy. These didn't sound like me at all. He was confused and angry at me because nothing made sense.

I finally asked him if he had ever looked up anything about my Psychological problems. He said "No". Which of course hurt me (He has combat PTSD which I researched a lot before moving in with him). He went to the computer and looked up anxiety and agoraphobia at first and then when he came up with nothing he looked to Bipolar. Bingo, Jackpot, we have a winner. The first link he pulled was a blog about a lady who had been dealing with a bipolar husband and the things to do/expect if you are with someone with the problem. Everything she said hit the nail on the head. He had a mini breakdown which included apologizing to me and saying he hated the therapist.

After that he picked up the phone to call the therapist. She was not there and he canceled all of our future appointments. The therapist herself has not tried to contact us since. Which I find strange if she was so sure he was in some kind of controlling relationship. Wouldn't a good therapist be concerned?

It has been about 2 1/2 months since that had happened. The scars of it still sit with me and when I think about it it still makes me upset.

We are both working on things now. He is learning to recognize my triggers and not to focus to much on negative things I say and get angry about them.

I had debated on becoming more active on these forms and have just now got around to it. I have a lot of things that happen to me with my illness and sometimes I just want to vent and get some support and know I am not alone.

Also my bipolar is a slower cycle bipolar. Mostly with low depression and anger. I have never reached a true mania but have a lot of Hypomanic cycles. I had always been iffy about bipolar being my diagnosis because I never had the high high mania. Then someone finally told me about the Hypomania which fit me to a tee and I finally understood my diagnosis.