I got my one email from my T. It was brief, but she commented on my description of beautiful scenery, and then said she was "breaking her rule" by writing more than wishing me a good weekend and that she read my emails. I wrote back that she was only breaking it a little because I knew she was not going to comment at all on everything I wrote about her and the session. I wrote a lot!

So, I was happy with her email. I think if she would have just written what she was "supposed to", I would have cried. It would have seemed like a "canned response."

I hope that she will understand that I now know that she won't comment on what I wish she would. I even asked her questions and said "I know you're not going to answer now." My expectations were much lower so I wasn't disappointed. I wasn't surprised that she picked something positive to comment on that was about my real life, not my transference stuff or about my issues.

I think if she will write a couple of sentences like she did it will be a good compromise. She won't be doing therapy via email, and I won't be expecting her to. I just don't know if she will think she isn't a good T because she didn't stick to her rule. What I think is that we are working this out so we will both be doing what is comfortable and good for both of us. I like that she is flexible and a little indecisive because I'm the same way and it helps me see that it's not such a terrible trait to be that way.

Do you think I'm being unrealistic, in denial, or does my "argument" make sense? Of course it's not up to me; it's up to my T how she responds to my emails.