Sannah, it bothers me when you say we "all had dysfunctional parents who could not show us that they valued us." I know you think my Mom's anxiety caused my problems, but my parents valued me and I'm sure other people's parents on PC valued them too. We all do not have the exact same problems here.

I also have problems liking/loving myself in spite of being complimented by
my parents for many behaviors and talents. I KNOW I was loved without a doubt in my mind. I grew up not having confidence in my abilities, and today feeling like a failure in some areas. My parents may have goofed somewhere, but I know they valued me and loved me.