(((mue)))
You can feel sad and sorry for your ex without having to act on those thoughts and feelings. You can continue on the course you are on and have those feelings. It doesn't change that you are doing what you need to do to protect yourself and your daughter.

He isn't able to make the decisions that need to be made. Let the court step in and do that for him. It looks to me like it is his only chance at a life that is worthwhile.

I'm glad you have the illustrating to focus on so you don't have to constantly think about this, so you can keep the doubts away. I would say that difficult decisions always involve doubt, so that's to be expected and again you don't have to act on the doubt; it just is.

Maybe you don't trust that your group could be objective or understanding, and that is okay. I think if you were comfortable going to your group for support, you would.

I hope your T can see you tomorrow. Maybe he would to with you on Tuesday?