Hi xxAmyxx, and welcome to the forums!
Vent away. I know I do(!) (I'm very isolated socially and find the forums very helpful to not feel that way as much.) As far as therapists, it runs the gamut-- great/good/meh/bad. And sometimes it's just not a good fit. It seems to me that it's important to have one that shares your basic philosophy. When you had your WTF moment, that was probably a good clue. At least she put it right out there.

I'm not so sure if her not pursuing you for cancelling the appointments necessarily says anything about her being concerned or good. The opposite response might be... kind of "pursuing" clients, you know? And that's probably not a good thing. Besides, since it sounds like she isn't a good fit for you (making you feel your comments aren't relevant and degraded, how can that possibly help?), it leaves you free, without guilt (even though one shouldn't feel that way about it...) to look for a T that shares your basic philosophy, you know?