Sigh.

This is the classic borderline dance.

http://www.mental-health-matters.com...article&id=114

In short....you are setting yourself up to feel what is familiar to you, again. Your T broke a boundary and when she sets it again, you will feel the same "upsetment/abandonment/anger" that you felt the first time she set it. This game will continue until (a) your T maintains the boundaries she sets or (b) you get so angry/upset you sabatoge your treatment.

This is why when working with borderlines, one of the main tenets is to set boundaries and stick to them. In fact, it is one of the core issues in treatment.

From Psych Central... "Therapists and doctors should learn to be like a rock when dealing with a person who has this disorder."

"Because people with this disorder often try and “test the limits” of the therapist or professional when in treatment, proper and well-defined boundaries of your relationship with the client need to be carefully explained at the onset of therapy"

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/bor...der-treatment/

And...
http://bpd.about.com/od/glossary/g/boundaries.htm

And everyone can crap on me and say that "it's ok" that your T broke a boundary, but all the literature can't be wrong about working with patients with these concerns. You are manipulating the relationship to get what you need and your T fell into it. If you want to heal, she did not help you.