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Originally Posted by rainbow8
Poet, I'm actually glad to see you around here again because I've wondered you are.  I'm not sure I meet the BPD criteria anymore--5 out of 9 or something? But that's not the point. My former T stuck to her rigid rules and after 5 plus years I was still attached to her. She made me cry after most sessions and my H said I was a basket case. That's not the case now. But I know you care, Poet. That feels good, so thank you. I'm not being sarcastic.  My T and I are working out what the best solution is for the email situation. My expectations are now realistic. I wish I hadn't posted. Some things may be best handled between T and myself, but I haven't learned that yet. 
I think my problem is posting about everything that goes on with my T. When will I ever learn not to? I really don't question my T. I just wanted another thread and attention, I think. 
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I would not be so black and white. Assess your behaviors and consider that BPD is a spectrum disorder... Look at what you even posted here... you wanted attention, you have to learn what is appropriate boundaries, you couldn't wait to get attention, you were impatient, blah, blah, blah etc.
In your original post, you said you would have cried if your T did what she said she was going to do, stick to her boundary-- "A canned response" -- we are talking about your response to your feelings of abandonment, rejection, etc.
Perhaps your former T or any T has not been able to help you because you are not in therapy that is scientifically proven to help your disorder or behaviors..such as DBT or Schema or even TFT?
But it does not matter, because you got what you wanted. You won, in this case. Your T fell for it...
What I wonder is where does "support" become enabling?