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Originally Posted by ECHOES
rainbow, I was thinking of the grief and pain you went through when she stated that the emails would change. I can see how exciting it would feel that she bent the rules in your favor this time.  |
Yes ECHOES. This is a very common cycle in a relationship with a person who is a borderline or a borderline "light". Basically setting the stage to experience what is familiar..
From a HIGH when the rules were changed/broken to a LOW when they are put into effect again when the T tries to protect herself from the demands of the relationship.
Now, when Rainbow's T sets the boundary again or another boundary around the email, Rainbow will experience what she is expecting -- feelings of rejection, abandonment, etc.... thus causing upsetment, anger, feelings of self-loathing.
It's like a game basically.