Rainbow, I said "unconsciously" manipulated. I don't think you deliberately tried to manipulate your t into responding more. I think it is not something you are aware of. You said you would have probably cried if she had responded the way she said she would. That sounds like you were hoping she would respond differently even though you weren't expecting her to. You even said you wrote alot, you asked her questions (and acknowledged that she wouldnt respond now). You write with the hopes that she will respond more (or you will cry?) It sounds manipulative to me. This is only my opinion on what i read, not saying I am right...just saying.