Hi growingflower,

Getting to this place where I could finally tell him has been a long journey for me. Look at my post dated Aug. 3 2005. titled " I told my T "
( sorry I don't know how to post the link.)

That was my first attempt to tell him. It was a disaster. but I take responsibility for that because I wasn't ready to be completely honest with him at that point.

I'm sure that he knew this was coming. He was waiting for me to take the leap. I'm not brave, I just got so tired of hiding this from him.

I did plan on saying something that helped a lot.

I said " I have something to tell you and I don't want you to let me run away from it"

Boy that worked. No turning back after that.

I hope this is helpful to you. I know how difficult the place is that you are in right now.

Best of Luck

Twinks